Office with evidence invalidating
Among them: Lack of role models and invalidation - most people who self-injure were chronically invalidated in some way as children (many self-injurers report abuse, but almost all report chronic invalidation). When I told one of the volunteers, a mother who had been helping me there, she said, "Maybe it's not so bad..."I remembered later that she had also said this about my visa situation, "Maybe it's not so complicated." I felt so hurt by her lack of understanding that I had to bite my tongue not to say "Did you hear one word I said?!
This implies that there is something wrong with us because we aren't like everyone else; we are strange; we are different; we are weird. The more different from the mass norm a person is, for example, more intelligent or more sensitive, the more he is likely to be invalidated. During those times I have to focus on one thing at a time, ask for help if I can, try to do it well, and accept some things just wont happen as ideally as Id like.
Or it may eventually isolate them from their feelings, with a resulting loss of major part of their natural intelligence. Most of them are so insidious that we don't even know what is happening. I swear I want to just shout out WHAT THE F**K?? "One day in Australia I decided to try hang gliding.
We know that something doesn't feel good, but we sometimes can't put our finger on it. I was going to end it there, but Id like to know, when did cutting become so popular? I went up with an instructor, floated and flew above the waves and coastline for about 20 minutes, then landed on the sand. I started thinking maybe there was something wrong and wondered if she had second thoughts about the plans we had made to go travelling together.
In abusive homes, they may have been severely punished for expressing certain thoughts and feelings. So I guess I will continue thinking and looking serious when I think about things that are important to me.
Self-injury is probably the result of many different factors. One day I was feeling very discouraged and depressed because a project I had started to help orphans in Bulgaria had been cancelled.